When a friend offers to treat you to coffee, lunch or dinner what is your response? Do you clam up and feel awkward? Do you feel like you should counter-offer? Or, do you allow yourself to receive this amazing gift?
A few years back I spent a weekend doing T Harv Eker’s “Millionaire Mind Intensive”. T. Harv Eker is the author of Secrets of the Millionaire Mind (if you have not already read this, I highly suggest you do). For me the book and the weekend event were life changing! I learned so much about myself and met so many amazing people at the weekend -event! I am still in touch with several people from that weekend today!
One of the biggest take home’s from the weekend intensive was: “if you want to receive all that the universe has to offer you have to be an excellent receiver” – meaning when you find a penny (or dime or dollar) on the street you have to truly celebrate finding it. When someone offers to treat you (be in lunch, coffee, dinner etc.) you have to graciously accept it. If you don’t accept the little things the universe brings you, it will NOT bring you the big things you desire. This may sound simple, but believe me it takes practice to make it second nature!
Being an excellent receiver is a rule of thumb I live my life by! I do not fight anyone who offers to treat me to coffee, cocktails, dinner, etc. And it actually gets easier and easier the more you practice. Don’t get me wrong I also enjoy treating others as well, but I truly understand the importance of being able to receive! (I love to unexpectedly treat my friends too <and I love when they are accepting and don’t push back>).
I noticed since I lost my job it has felt super awkward to be an excellent receiver. Ironic huh? At my time of “need” it feels the most awkward to accept. But, I am working on pushing through and focusing in being an excellent receiver and giver.
This afternoon I was craving wings, so off to Buffalo Wild Wings I went. Sitting at the bar, I had 2 beers (happy hour YAY) and boneless HOTT wings. Being the social butterfly I am, I engaged in conversations with the couple to my right and the banker to my left. When I went to pay my tab the (married, not interested in dating me) banker to my left picked up my tab! I was so grateful! He made a truly genuine gesture (even the women to his left praised him!) He wasn’t hitting on me, he wasn’t pushing for anything more than picking up my tab (seriously, what a gentleman? This is the kind of guy I want to date)! I basked in the moment of being an excellent receiver! And I am open to all that the universe intends to give me.
To my local banker friend THANK YOU AGAIN for picking up my tab, I appreciate you!!!