Mother’s Day is a time to truly celebrate your mother and all of your mothers! Some of us are lucky enough to be blessed with our own mom, grandmothers, God mothers, Aunts, Best Friend’s Mom’s….I think you get the hint!
My mother was not one who liked people fussing over her, but she did truly enjoy going out to breakfast for Mother’s Day. She loved this little corner restaurant (I honestly forget the name, it has changed 3-4 times) in Cranford, NJ. And she would be super content just going for breakfast (I won’t lie this was a tradition I didn’t love, I would prefer sleeping IN to going out for breakfast). She didn’t love to receive a lot of gifts, but she did LOVE anything my niece and nephew gave her (and I mean truly loved it)!
My mom passed away on November 20, 2007, Mother’s Day has never been the same since. I still have so many amazing women to celebrate; my sister, my Godmother – aka Aunt Betty, and so many others including some of my best friends. Yet, I truly can’t get through the day without missing my own mom so much it brings me to tears! Not a day goes by where I don’t miss my mom, but Mother’s Day makes me miss her so much more (if that is possible?).
Today is the 2nd Mother’s Day I have spent in California; last year a good friend from LA County came down (she also lost her mom) and we explored San Diego together and had a great day, and made our mom’s proud having a FUN day! We were planning on doing something similar this year, but I honestly wasn’t up to it. I am really missing my mother this year.
Growing up, we were not “cemetery people” we rarely went to the cemetery; regardless of if it was a major holiday or not. It just wasn’t something my mother did. Because of this, EVERY time I visit my mom’s grave I hear her yelling at me! “Why are you wasting your time?” Why did you spend your money on flowers, they are just going to die?” So, I would ALWAYS make my visits quick and buy economical (cheap) flowers for her (I am NOT kidding, I am sure she would roll over in her grave if I brought her expensive flowers!).
This year I really felt compelled to bring her flowers for Mother’s Day, I can’t explain it; it was just a feeling that came over me. Since flying home wasn’t really an option, I asked one of my besties to bring her CHEAP flowers (she was cracking up when I asked, but she TOTALLY got what I was saying) for me. I feel so blessed that even though I couldn’t go visit my mom’s grave that I could call on one of my dearest friends to help me out (THANK YOU SOOO MUCH!). So tonight I can rest easy knowing my mom’s grave has Mother’s Day Flowers. Now I just have to hope she doesn’t pop into my dreams to yell at me, those of you who KNEW Karen will truly understand what I mean!
I wish all of the mom’s (birth moms, foster moms, step-moms, Godmothers, Aunts, Fur Baby Moms, etc..) a very Happy 2014 Mother’s Day!