I am someone who consciously decides to focus on the positive. I also realize that from time to time, I need to throw a temporary pity party! I have spent a lot of time, blood, sweat and tears on training my mind to be positive and solution oriented. But you know what? At the core it is easier for us to focus on the negative! Urgh how frustrating?!
Isn’t it crazy how when something (big or teeny tiny) goes wrong in our day we fester on it? I can’t speak for you, but when I find a mistake I have made it throws me off my game. It is like I am paralyzed and focused on the error! I may have done 300 things RIGHT that day, but I stew on the 1 thing that I did wrong. We are so unkind to ourselves. If our friend or family member made that same mistake we would treat them with love and compassion, we would remind them of all of the things they did right! Yet, we treat ourselves the exact opposite!
I read this amazing book You, Can, You Will by Joel Osteen! For me, it is a GAME CHANGER! It is based on my core beliefs, but it is the exact timing that I need to be reminded of said beliefs! One of the biggest things that hit home was this section (paraphrased so I don’t go to jail for plagiarizing!): Studies show (I honestly don’t know which studies, I can find out if needed <this is a non scientific post – lol can you tell WHAT I do for a living?>) that positive and negative memories are handled by different parts of the brain. Negative memories take up more space in your brain because there is more to process vs positive memories. With vigilant effort you CAN train your brain to focus on the positive first! You can CHOOSE to stop thinking negative thoughts (I know, I know it is not as easy as it sounds – it DOES take <a lot> work!). But, it IS possible!
One of the tools I find most helpful is a gratitude journal! buy you a drank lyricsEvery day journal a minimum of 3 things you are grateful for! Your journal entries can be as simple as “I got out of bed today”. A success journal buy Lyrica europeis another tool I like (same concept as a gratitude journal but for your successes). I personally have combined my gratitude and success journal together. Each day I write a minimum of 3 things I am grateful for and 3 successes I have had. You will see the more dedicated you become with journaling the more you have to journal about! One of my newest tools (inspired by the book) is a victory list. I wrote down all of my life victories– from the very big victories (making my dream of moving to SoCal a reality) to the very small (I baked delish cupcakes for my friends)! I have placed this list in an easy to reach location so I can reference it on demand! I can pull it out whenever I am having “one of those days –where 50 things went awesome and 1 thing went wrong”; I can remind myself of all of the victories I have had an inspire myself to focus on the future victories!
I hope you consider using some, if not all of these tools to help inspire yourself as well! Love and blessings to YOU as you reset your mindset!
PS – Stay tuned! I just took a seminar and will be reading a book on how to overcome your mind’s saboteurs! I am confident it will inspire a blog!!